Dreams Are Useless

wall no futur You have dreams of monthly family vacations to exotic holes in the Earth. You dream of a bank account that’s padded with more than enough. Maybe even millions. You dream of kicking back and only working on the projects you want to work on, while you sip martinis (WTF?).


But those dreams are useless.


Dreams are hopes. And hopes?


Don’t happen.


Goals do.


Goals are those things you feel DEEP in your soul that you want to achieve. They’re the things that push you to get the work done.


People tell me they want to travel. They want a comfortable life. They want to be healthy.


But the steps they’re taking to get there are vague, if existent. Which means? Nothing. Will. Happen.


I don’t have dreams. Not one. I have desires that have cemented goals in place. Goals that are being ticked off faster than I can comprehend.


And it’s goals that change your life. It’s your willingness to fight for those goals and to do the work they require.


Because if you’re not constantly working toward an end? You won’t get the end you want. You’ll get the shit that everyone else wants you to have.


And your “dreams” get tossed to the side of the highway. Like leftover fast food you couldn’t gorge down. (Don’t litter people, that’s just irresponsible.)


How Can You Change The Result?


By living as if your goals are the oxygen in your lungs. You wake up with determination to make it real. You feel, with every cell in your body, that it’s coming.


Throw the word “dreams” to the curb and roll over it a couple of hundred times.


Ask yourself what it is that you feel is calling you. Is it that need to see Bali? Is that need to see those dollars in your bank account that you thought was a dream?

If what you need, at your core, is, in fact, those things that you’ve been “wishing” would happen, then you’re failing yourself, if you’re not setting the steps into motion that are necessary.


But if you wake up with the thirst to do what needs to be done. Then NOTHING can stand in the way of your goals.


Nothing. And no one.


Wake up and say, “I will make myself so fucking visible on social media that they can’t ignore me anymore.” Or “I will rethink my money matters before throwing cash away on more instant gratification.” Whatever vocabulary you need to use to make solidify those goals. And to end the dreaming.


Cement That Shit


Once you know what your goals are, write them down. Keep them beside your screen, so that every time you get distracted in Facebook, you see your words bleeding and your soul calling you.


Read them daily, so that every time someone says, “Babe, can you keep the kids this weekend so I can go to the movies, you say, “Eff off. I’ve got work to do” with a clear conscience.


Because they will ask. For a lot. They may mean well. They may not be subconsciously trying to sabotage you, or get you to sabotage yourself. (Or maybe they are?)


Your goals have a shelf life and when you stick to them, shit happens. Good shit. Knob Creek kinda good shit.


Your Roadmap


Print this out and use it to keep yourself accountable. Find a partner that understands what you’re working for and let them in on your goals. Join a support group. Pay someone to hold you accountable. (As my OBM, Dani’s kicking my ass into gear over these next two weeks to make sure I’m showing up and not wallowing in thoughts that could stop me while I’m in the middle of a situation that a few months ago would have sent me over the edge.)


I don’t care what you need to do to make your goals happen. Just do it.




Without me, my goals are just empty dreams. I know and understand the consequences of my actions (or lack thereof). And I will wake up to show up and do the work. Every. Day. Nothing will stand between the things my soul needs and my making them happen.









Steps to Success:







And if you’re not sure what steps you need to take or if the steps you’ve been taking aren’t making it happen fast enough, get off blogs. Get off Facebook. Get a coach. Get a mentor. Get somebody that will teach you in triple time, so you can stop dicking around with a bootstrap mentality. Either you want it. Or you want to dream about it.


Only one of them will satisfy your soul.


New Year, New You...and me!

Well, it's the time of year that you find blog posts populating the sphere about the new year and the reflections that come with the passing of old friends.   Usually, I flow against the current, but I find myself waxing nostalgic and wanting to recognize my efforts this year, put forth my goals for next year, and find out what yours are. 

This year, for me, has been grand.  While not in the manner of Sean Platt and Patti Larsen, but in a manner that says maybe next year will be my year to do what they did.

This year, I started two businesses and watched one of them flop while the other is blossoming in its own slow growing way.  I made decisions about what I want from my newly found career and I'm taking steps to make them happen.  I started three books.  And I survived my oldest baby going off to kindergarten...(I didn't think that was possible, but I managed it).

For all of you, I appreciate your support in your reading and commenting on this quiet little blog--more than you know.  While I am probably number 155.9999999 millionth in the sphere of 156 million blogs, I am sooo happy to be here.  And when I see a new subscriber or someone RT my musings on Twitter, that little bit of fuel goes a long way.  And I thank you:) 

Next year, I plan on burning the whole building down. 

My goals for the end of this year is to finish one eBook for this site on...drum roll, please...the effects of health on productivity:) And I am setting a blogging schedule and my cornerstone content for next year.  Twice a week, I will post information to help keep you moving toward your productivity goals by staying healthy and fit in a world moving at the speed of information.  I also hope to get into posting a Friday Flash each week. (Totally off-topic, but I love to do it).

This blog has evolved since I started in April from chaos to order and now into Health and Productivity.  I feel at home in this space now.  And I'm excited to be able to help others and do something I know and love.

My goal is to focus on fitness and whole nutrition for maximum quality from the Productive Creative that you are. 

In addition, Mr. Seth Godin has inspired me to prune the following.  So this year, I'll follow those whose tribes speak to me and I hope to attract an audience who would like to be part of my tribe.  Noise is no good if you are not being heard.  And while Twitter is about the numbers, if your numbers are not responding to your messages, then they're getting nothing from you.  And vice versa.  Advertising is no longer an option...this world's market is about PR.  And I want to help you be the best at what you do...no matter what THAT is. 

So come on 2012!!  We're ready to get on the road! 

What are your goals, career and otherwise??  What would you like to see from me that will help you? move forward?

I love to learn what makes you tick...come hang out with me on Twitter, Facebook, and G+!  If you want to get your game together for next year, join me by subscribing and I will deliver posts straight to your inbox as they are published.  (Don't worry.  If you find I am not serving you, you can unsubscribe at any time...and I won't sell or share your info)...so go ahead, click the button with the envelope and sign up today!


If you haven't already, please stop by to take (and share if you are so inclined) a VERY short survey (5 questions) to help me focus my efforts for you next year.  I want you to be the best and I want to know where I can help you most with your health and fitness and productivity goals:)  Thanks, in advance!


Photo Credit: Nevit Dilmen (Wikimedia Commons) 



The Alchemy of Success

Once upon a time, the airwaves were flooded with the next magic pill to make people lose weight.  People bought them.  People fell for the nonsense…I was one of them. 

After many years of riding that roller coaster, it has finally become apparent to the masses that those gimmicks are just that. 

So what do you need to achieve?

You need the magic potion that I have for you.  Pay careful attention.  I am going to give you the recipe that you need to succeed.  Not just at weight loss, but at life.


Got your pen?


Here we go:

You need the following:

  • Belief
  • Love
  • Intention
  • Vision

Brew those things together and you have the winning combination of ingredients required to make the most of your life. 

Belief in yourself.  Love of yourself.  Soulful intention.  And your mind’s eye view of you doing what you do

That’s it. No pills.  No scams.  No silly gimmicks.  Listening to yourself and loving yourself leads you to success in every aspect of your life.  Your body, mind and soul know what you need.  All  you have to do is listen and obey. 

Easy, huh? 

If it isn’t, we’ll talk about why it isn’t as easy as it sounds next time. 

And in case you are a bald eagle hovering over this site, reading…fitness isn’t about the numbers :)

Drop me a line and let me know what key ingredient you are missing from your Success Recipe.  Thanks for hanging out and reading my wall...let's get together on Twitter and Facebook, too! 

 © Tania Dakka and Chaotic Musing, 2011