Mostly because I've been waiting. Waiting for a voice to say, “Tania, you CAN do this.” Or “Tania, let me help you do this.”
I was waiting for a hand-holder, a cheerleader. Only I didn't realize it – until I had been asked what I was waiting for in Chris Brogan's newsletter this morning. (If you don't get it, don't. Unless you like reading that prompts action. All gold.)
One of the reasons we fail was just painted on the wall in bright red lipstick. And as much as I love red lipstick, seeing my failure for what it was wasn't so pleasant.
It's all in the voice
We give a lot of credence to the voices around us. Too much, maybe.
And we've been lucky enough to have some amazing voices in our Brave group to help push us farther, faster. Because of the voices heard in that community everyday, we're pushed to action. Because of them, we do and we achieve. We hold each others’ hands and cheer.
Accomplishing was easy. We listened to the voices. Did the work. Got the results.
But I listened only with my business goals. Not my fitness goals.
Have you ever failed?
Have you ever set goals and watched yourself fail because you didn’t see them through?
Were you waiting on a voice to tell you that you could or should do something? Were you waiting to hear a chorus of “Yes!” and “That’s a great idea!”
When we have cheerleaders, it's easy to be Brave. When we’re alone, it’s a different story. The tones become more ominous and prominent. Our challenges get bigger.
Maybe bigger than we think we are.
But those nasty voices telling us, “There’s no use” or “Don’t try. It’s already been done” are the most hideous voices of all – our own.
What if you stop waiting for the right voice? What if you stop waiting for your cheerleader, consultant or whoever to tell you you can?
Would you sit still – paralyzed and unsure of what you're next move should be?
I bet not. The flames of your dreams would still lap at the inside of your belly making sitting still not really an option. Not for you. You burn to succeed. You can taste it every day.
So that means you have to stop waiting for the right voice.
And write your own cheers. Ones that say, "Yes, I can." And, "Yes, I will." That say, "Forget how hard it looks, you got this." That "You are the man!"
This isn’t going to be so easy because you’ve likely spent many years telling yourself you shouldn’t listen to you or your own ideas. That they aren’t really that good. Or that you’re not CopyBlogger or Jon Morrow, so don't try.
The truth is you’re not those guys. You’re you. And there’s a whole sea of people waiting to hear what you have to say.
Repeat after me: “I can do this.”
Now, put your head down and push through the voices that tell you otherwise.
Thanks for hanging with me today, I appreciate your time. Now, jump in the comments and tell me what you're going to do to start listening to your own voice.